Coping with Childless or Empty-Nester Friends
Updated: May 2, 2019
We were used to being able to get up and go at anytime, and our friends were used to us being able to do that, too. Most of them don't have children or their children are grown and gone. I was a brand new mom at age 42. My husband was a START-OVER Dad, as his daughter was born when he was 18 years old and his son 6 year later.
Things changed quickly for us, and we feel that our friends still sometimes forget. We have to politely let them know that we must go somewhere that is kid-friendly or we can't go. We certainly don't want to ruin anyone's time out or seem like a burden.
Older Parents and Babysitters
When you're an older parent, your child is very likely to not have grandparents who are able/available to help nurture and care for him/her. I am the only child of a single mother. Sadly, she transitioned in 1988 at the age of 38 (only eight days after my 16th birthday).
William's parents were Sunset parents, too. When his mother transitioned in 2013, she was 90 years old, and he was 48. I am actually the same age that she was when she gave birth to him. #yikes
I had always wanted a loving grandmother-type to care for my child/ren, and I believed that idea into existence. One day, when Liam was about a month old, I was outside talking to Ms. Mary, our retired next-door neighbor. I was telling her that I will have to return to work soon, and we are looking around at daycare centers, but we don't really want him to go to daycare. Ms. Mary did not hesitate, and she said, "I'll keep him for you." I was so happy I could've cried. And so it has been the two of them ever since. Ms. Mary, has been our little Liam's babysitter since he was about two months old. He even calls her "Grandma", and when he does, she melts like butter in Georgia's summer sun. Ms. Mary is quite a gem and a true blessing to us!